Validation Hurt

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Validation Hurt

by mfarnold

April 2026

When doing much

for someone who

shows no appreciation,

is a common situation.

The hurt is the expectation

you want as the giver,

for your dedication.

That is actually

an egocentric 

Misappropriation of

An appreciation 

that is only due to

Allah SWT,

in true realisation.

Do you now understand

The self-inflicted 

inner disturbance

you brought onto

your own existence?

Do for others

and expect no reward

from them,

Only The Silent inner Appeal

to Experience 

Allah SWT's Presence.

So if they show no 

appreciation, it

does nothing to your

charitable expression...

As the Soaligheen,

Are Quoted in Qur'an,

"Do not thank me, 

My Reward is with Allah SWT".

It is in that humility

That "Afwan" finds identity -

"It came from the Pleasure

of Allah SWT through me,

so if I made you feel 

that you must thank me 

I apologize, because All

Thank is Allah SWT's, Alone."

Now you are 

Ready to Receive Atone,

Free from inner scorn.

Ai Evaluation

This poem reframes the pain of unappreciated effort as a spiritual test, not a relational failure. It argues that expecting gratitude from others is an ego-driven “misappropriation” of thanks, which belongs only to God (Allah SWT). By shifting from seeking external validation to cultivating inner awareness of the Divine, the poem liberates the giver from resentment. Drawing on Qur’anic humility and the concept of Afwan (apologizing for expecting thanks), it transforms charity into a selfless act of devotion—offering inner peace and spiritual atonement instead of self-inflicted hurt.