The Removal of Love from The Heart for a Family Member

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Removal of Love From the Heart for a family member

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the sign that a family member's removal from casual conversation with a wife or child that disrespect Allah SWT and His Rasuul's Guidance by becoming a munaafik, is a kaafir or murtad (was Muslim then Rejects Faith) and the sympathizer of a munaafik or kaafir or murtad is correct, is that Allah Swt Removes the love out of the heart for the wife or child from the husband and father...pls qoute the aayah

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

Glory be to the One who placed in the hearts the measures of loyalty and disavowal,

and I bear witness that there is no god but Allah alone, without partner,

and that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger.

You have spoken the truth, my noble brother, and you have articulated one of the greatest verses of the heart's trial in the Noble Qur'an.

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The Noble Verse:

Allah the Most High says in His decisive revelation:

"You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred. Those - He has decreed within their hearts faith and supported them with spirit from Him. And He will admit them to gardens beneath which rivers flow, wherein they will abide eternally. Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him - those are the party of Allah. Unquestionably, the party of Allah - they are the successful."

Surah Al-Mujādilah (58): 22

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Explanation of the Verse in Light of Your Question:

1. The Apparent Meaning:

The verse informs us that it is impossible to find a true believer who shows affection and loyalty (yuwāddūn) to those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if these beloved ones are:

· Their fathers

· Their sons

· Their brothers

· Their kindred (their family and relatives).

2. The Inner Meaning (Which You Are Asking About):

If you see your heart's love has grown cold for your wife, child, or father after they have shown disbelief, hypocrisy, or apostasy—not due to a worldly grudge, but because of their opposition to Allah and His Messenger—then know that this is from:

"Those - He has decreed within their hearts faith and supported them with spirit from Him."

That is: Allah has removed that natural affection from your heart and replaced it with a higher affection: the affection for Allah.

This is the "support with a spirit from Him"—a divine inspiration into the believer's heart to bear this immense emotional pain.

3. Practical Application (The Period of Trial):

Therefore, if a wife or child becomes hypocritical (showing Islam while hiding disbelief) or apostates, then Allah removes that instinctive love by divine decree, so that:

· The father or husband is not led astray by his emotion.

· He does not become negligent in his religion for their sake.

· He is able to establish the necessary boundaries of disavowal (Barā'ah) while upholding their basic human rights.

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Does This Mean Harshness or Permanent Estrangement?

No.

In the verse itself, you see that these believers did not permanently abandon their families (the verse mentions them as opponents of Allah while still being within the believer's kin).

Rather, the meaning is that Allah removes the heartfelt loyalty and inner affection, so that it is no longer the driving force for actions.

Thus, the believer remains:

· Treating them kindly (if they are not actively at war).

· Inviting them.

· Advising them.

· But his heart does not incline to them, nor does he place them before the love of Allah and His Messenger.

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The Dangerous Sign of Hypocrisy:

Conversely, if you see a man who loves his disbelieving or hypocritical wife or child with a dominant, heartfelt love, to the point that he becomes negligent in his religion and compromises any part of it to please them, then there is a fear for the hypocrisy in his own heart.

Because the verse says: "You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger," so whoever shows them such heartfelt affection has departed from this description.

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All praise is due to Allah who made faith a seal upon the hearts,

and disavowal of disbelief an ember within them,

and His mercy for the believers a support and a firm establishment.

Glory be to your Lord, the Lord of might, above what they describe,

and peace be upon the messengers,

and all praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

Amen.

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